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Looking Back

Updated: Jul 15, 2019

I started journaling some of my experiences of being a Pastor's wife many years ago.  As I look back at those entries, I see times of pain.  And to be honest - it chills me just reading some of them.  I wish I could go back to that young woman and hug her.  I would tell her to be strong, to look for the good, and to live to please the Lord first and foremost.  I would tell her to journal more and not just about the hard times.   I didn't often journal about the good times in ministry.  Why is that?  I think I was looking for a way to cope with the hard things.  And then hopefully move on and get freedom from the challenges.  I wanted to be over my fear of rejection.  I wanted to conquer my need to be liked.  I was desperate to not care if someone didn't want to be my friend.  I was so hopeful I would be indifferent if my husband was being criticized.   Journaling was a way that I could express my pain.  But I didn't know how to deal with it.  I didn't know how to grow.  I needed to mature and gain wisdom through experiences.  But I also needed some tools to help me along the way.   One question I often ask other Pastor's wives or women who are in ministry/married to men in ministry - "What is something you wish you could go back and tell yourself when you first started out?"  I would tell myself to find a pastor, mentor, or friend (outside of the ministry I was serving in).  Someone who could pour into me as I was pouring out to others.  Someone who I could confide in and gain wisdom from.  Someone who would CARE for me.  Maybe that is why I am passionate about caring for you who are reading this.  I wish I had that way back then.   If you are a seasoned veteran in ministry - what would you go back and tell yourself?   Please share with me as I would love to know.  And if you don’t mind I will share it on this site to help others just starting out.  

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